I have more than 2800 contacts on Facebook and another few hundred on other social networks. Two thirds of them are women, don’t ask me why. I don’t know myself. Usually they connect to me. Partly because of the parties, I organize. Partly they are people I met somewhere along, on my life’s path. May it be a wedding I attended, or they are business contacts. Sometimes strangers try to connect to me and sometimes its friends of friends. Usually I only accept a friend request, if the person is at least a friend of someone I really know, but I’m not super selective, since I use the social networks to promote my parties and my work. Unlike some of my real friends, who create selected portfolios on Facebook, where they only allow real friends and celebrities to join their elite club of friends.
Usually I take a few minutes and I go through the profile of my new friends, especially their photo albums. No, I’m not some pervert, looking for a mastrubation model. Photos say a lot about a person. You can see their birthday parties, who they hang out with, what their favorite places are, their dog, their family and so on. So yes, I’m actually interested in everybody who befriends me on a social network. I also have a look at their favorite books and movies. What kind of sports they do. It can actually be inspirational. But let’s go back to the photo albums. You’d be surprised what you can find there. I often check the photos, even before I accept the friend request. While Europeans and Americans usually close their complete profile (until you connect) and you can’t see anything, I came to realize that most Russians have open-to-public photo albums. I guess they want the world to see what they have to show. It’s also quite interesting, how many swimsuit and bikini photos you’d find there. Especially as profile photos.To be honest with you, I almost find it a bit exhibitionistic. Let me ask you: Would you wear a bikini and take the Moscow Metro, during rush hour. Would you? But at the same time you allow millions of viewers to see you in a bikini or other, let’s say «open minded» outfits. Yes right, you can’t see them staring at you. I wish you could, but I don’t take that thought any further now.
Over the years I came to realize, what the real reason of this exhibitionism is. I would want to believe that they are doing it for us men. To turn me on and to attract me. But, I came to realize that these photos are NOT targeted at all, at us men. Not at me and not at the happy Italian or Turkish chap commenting «how beautiful you are» in bad English. No! They are directed towards other women. Nah, not what you are thinking. I’ll get to the bi-sexual phenomenon in a few months. Seriously, I understood that there is a competition among the women themselves. A virtual beauty contest, so to say. Hey, look what beautiful legs I have. Or, Hey, check how much money I spend on my Cavalli bikini. Or simply, Look, how tanned I am, during my Mauritius vacation, while you sit in your office on a rainy grey Moscow day.
Yes, it’s that simple. I’d even go so far to say that most of the overdressed women on Moscow’s streets, you know the ones that look like they are going to a VIP event or wedding, while they just go to work, do that for the same motivation. We stupid men think they do that for us, instead they do it to impress and outdo the other females. So what do you say? Am I wrong? In the meantime I’m checking some more of them bikini photos…
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This was part of my guest appearance on the Russian Cosmopolitan Magazine’s blog, where I wrote about Russian women. See the Russian version and the readers comments here: http://www.chattycatty.ru/member/kris-helmbreht/diary/
